Saturday, January 28, 2006

Somedays I wonder if having friends is even worth it. With all the times they hurt you why not just stay to yourself and be a hermit. I'm terrified of hurting the ones I love, it's just my personality.. but what am I suppose to do when the ones I love hurt me? Just sit and take it?


Anon
11:01:38 AM

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

If you can't be open & talk things through with these people, then are your 'friendships' really that good anyway?

What are they based on, if you can't?

Notice i said 'friendships' & not 'friends' ie, it should be a problem/issue/challenge for BOTH parties. Cooperation is fundamental. Without that, there is no progress.

Anonymous said...

Hmm, isn't the definition of friendship at least people who don't hurt you on a constant basis?

..just my thought

Anonymous said...

I can't think of a single time when any of my friends have "hurt" me all that badly. They arne't even that judgmental other than the average "Hey you've got food on your face." If any of them had hurt me in any significant way they wouldn't be my friends anymore. End of story.

Unless you're finding your buddies at a sadist support group or something, they should generally be nice and make you feel better on a daily basis, not worse. If they have a negative impact then why the heck do you keep them around?

Either you need to fix the problem, find some new friends, or start scoping out some good hermit islands.

Anonymous said...

I can talk to this person about anything... it's just lately I dunno... she says I'm her first "long term" friend and yea I dunno I feel like she doesn't want me there a lot...

whatev though