i feel more comfortable around adults than around teenagers. people my own age generally make me really uncomfortable. i feel like they have so many expectations of me, and that i'm letting them down by not fulfilling these expectations. with adults, it's completely different because they've finished being teenagers already. it feels like i have too, most of the time. i just feel so much more mature than most people i know. not to be conceited, but i also feel like i know more and understand more things about the world then them. i wish... for a lot of things, but mostly for someone who understands this feeling of being older than other people my age. it's lonely.
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11:35:52 PM
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/I'm really gorgeous. It's hard sometimes to be around all my ugly friends and have them expect me to do ugly person stuff with them. I can't stand all the pressure to be someone I'm not. All I want is to find that one beautiful person who will really understand this curse./
Sorry pal, no sympathy here. Grow up.
I know how you feel, OP. All of my friends' mothers want me to marry their daughters and love to be around me. But the actual daughters probably couldn't care less about me.
haha, I liked the analogy anonymous one, but it does fall apart at some point.
I get what you're saying, but just try to lose yourself. Don't get caught up in "being mature," it doesn't really do anything for you.
i like the irony of the first anonymous saying "grow up" at the end.
OP, i have the same problem sometimes. teenagers are weird, but keep in mind that you're one too. on the bright side, this might make college interviews easier. don't grow up too fast.
The sad part is, if the OP has truly grown up already, then they never really got much of a childhood at all. They get to spend the rest of their life as a boring, jaded, "mature" adult while completely missing out on one of the most wonderful stages of their life.
I for one go out of my way to cling to childhood. I climb trees. Instead of the sidewalk, I walk up on the wall just next to it. I roll down hills, run in fields barefoot, and would much rather go on an adventure than go out drinking. Sure my way has some problems too, but I know I have the whole rest of my life to be "mature". When will the OP find time to just be a kid?
Heh, get off your pedestal. In truth there isn't much difference between teenagers and adults, except for one thing: experience of age. They've lived longer, and seen more regardless of anything else. Granted, that is meaningful, but you are not an adult. I suppose that doesn't explain why you feel more comfortable about it, but it sounds more like you hang out with the wrong people, or have a superiority complex.
Maybe it doesn't have to do with maturing faster than others. Maybe it has to do with being afraid of people noticing/pointing out your own failures and insecurities. And because your current peer group is so quick to do so, you choose to reject them.
((As a bad example: say you only have one ear and you go to a bank. an adult bank teller isn't going to oggle your missing ear or change the way she treats you.
Say you go to a grocery store with a 16yr old cashier. She'll probably either stare blatantly or refuse to look. And then the following day she'll tell her friends about the one-eared dude that came to her till. ))
Everyone has failures and insecurities, right? I just find that most teens mask the fact that it hurts when people point them out. Or they just don't care.
Not that you should be conditioned to it!!! Maybe just meet some older friends..?
i used to be like that, and then i just started having fun. Relax, enjoy life, mess around with teenagers, because in a couple years they'll be adults and you probably wont be able to relate with them if you can't now.
I am in the same situation as the OP. I've found, though, that's it's not really a teenagers vs. adults divide. It's a maturity vs. immaturity divide. The OP sounds to be more mature than the average person of his or her age. The solution? Find people of a similar maturity level to interact with. This can be accomplished with adult friendships and friendships with other teenagers, but maturity is far more common in adults. Unfortunately, some people never get it, and the OP will have difficulty relating to them forever. (a nod to the previous Anonymous; that would be 7, I believe)
Anonymous 4: I, too, enjoy the simple pleasures of making airplane arms and running around in circles, riding kiddie rides, running through the wet grass, going everywhere barefoot, singing anywhere and everywhere, and generally making a childlike fool of myself. Childhood is a gift that adults need to accept.
That said, I also enjoy doing all these things with my best friends. They range from being my age to being seventeen years older than me.
Maturity AND childhood freedoms. A combination that's tough to beat.
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