I'm going slowly deaf. few know. most just think i'm not paying attention when i don't hear or am clueless or something. i'm afraid of what they would say, but i'm also afraid of losign friends by not being able to hold a conversation or get in to a good realtionship. i've had hearing aids since i was in 1st grade, but i always take them out before i get to school. and now it's getting worse and it might be affecting my grades, but i can't admit it to anyone because of my goddamned pride. and now it's too late for anyone to "get used to it." i hate it! and i'm sick of machines in my ears and how they look! i just want to be normal and this is just one thing to many. god. dont' they have surgery for these kinds of things?
Anonymous
11:15:07 PM
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To start off with, I sympathize with your situation, and I know how frustrating it has to be to rely on bulky, unattractive mechanical supports in daily life. However, I think you're wrong in thinking surgery would be your saving grace, your salvation.
Surgery is a four letter word in my house. It means a drastic, no-holds-barred last-ditch attempt to correct a problem. It doesn't always work, many times its not the best option.
Another thing about anything that involves invasive correction: It's many times "final" and irreversible. If there's a mistake, it can hurt you even worse in the long run.
Give the hearing aids a chance. Shelve your pride, you might be surprised with the support you can get from your friends.
It may be inconvenient in the short run to bow under the yoke of mechanical assistance, but it sounds like it could help you keep up with life, a fair trade in my book.
That being said, I don't know your situation. I'm simply reflecting on a similarly relavent debate I held with myself in years past.
I have a friend who has a significant amount of hearing loss and it is becoming frusturating a difficult to deal with her (I am in Colorado) Neither me or my friends want to say anything about her problem because it would be awkward and possibly hurtful. Even if you talk to her directly adn there is minimal backround noise she gives you a blank look and it is just frusturating. I miss talking to the intelligent and awesome person she is and I would definately go with a hearing aid (in the op's situation). It is not only frustrating for you but for the people around you and with the pace of modern life it is even harder. Oh and by the way I could take suggestions about talking to this friend of mine.
(On a side note, if you have the money there are hearing aids that are practically invisible)
I would say, keep the thing in. Not only will your friends most definitely not care, but if you go long periods being unable to hear, the auditory parts of your brain may atrophy so when you do decide to give in to a hearing aid it may not do any good.
Of course this doesn't change the fact that you have to rely on a piece of plastic to function. My advice is to put things in perspective. We all have to rely on something to function normally, whether it's glasses or medication or a machine. I'd much prefer to put a little thing in my ear in the morning than have to take a pill for depression everyday. You need help getting your ears to work, but millions of others need assistance just to keep their personalities functioning at normal.If you understand that no one is infallable and that things could certainly be a lot worse (a wheelchair for example) you might see how little of a thing this really is.
what...? ...SPEAK UP!
I know a kid that has a hearing aid and I think its a much better idea to just wear it. Though people will be surprised at first they will get over it and it will just become a part of you, like when someone gets braces or glasses.
there are, in fact, surgery's for this type of thing however it depends on your particular situation. My friend was going to become deaf within 3 years so he got a cochlear implant. This implant, however, does not get rid of the hearing aid. In fact, it adds more to it. Attached to the hearing aid is now a wire that goes to his head and on his hair there is a kind of "plate" (its small and round but clearly visible). The "plate" stays on his head because it is magnetically attracted by what they put into his ear (the implant).
lay off cuntflap
Listen man, one of my best friends not only has to wear hearing aids, but he has dwarfism.
Go ahead and imagine being 3 foot 10 all the way through middle school. And imagine having 27 different surgeries on your hips knees and back. Imagine the criticism, the snickers, the elf jokes.
Now my friend is going to college with a $31,000 scholarship. He's fine and hes goin places.
I am truly sorry that you have this problem, but it could always be worse. Take the advice of those here, those in your family, and those in your friend circles-they will not fail you.
good luck
"My friend was going to become deaf within 3 years so he got a cochlear implant."
These are seriously the coolest things in the world. When the hairs that usually vibrate and send electrical signals to the brain are damaged or missing they can just replace them with electrodes and a little computer to translate the sound waves. Soooo cool.
If you are going deaf then just wear it...If you actually become completly deaf won't you want to hear as much of the world as you can?
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