I'm a lesbian. but I haven't come to terms with it. all my life i've tried to be more towrds "normal" b/c I'm very odd without adding homosexuality to the package. then one day I was at wendy's and one of my "friends" was like " I totally look down on girls who say they are bi/gay cause they are only looking for attention and its "in style" to be gay now" so basically this happened when i had beasically come to terms with my sexuality but it pretty much sent me rocketing back to square one. I try to hide it when my friends are talking about hot guys i generally pretend i think they are hot too-but I don't. and now I have no fucking clue what the hell im supposed to do. I live in a "liberal" town - but one of my best friends is super christian and so are a couple of my other friends. i wish i knew anyone wlse who was gay.
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01:45:49 AM
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I know several people at my school that are gay or bi. And one of the absolute sweetest and most wonderful people I've ever met was bi. She was always really nice.
But basically...whoever you are, I won't care if you're gay or not, if that helps at all. It isn't something to be ashamed of, as far as I'm concerned.
If they can deal with it then tell them and they'll understand, but if you know for sure that they'll fliip out on you then just don't tell them, why should they have to know?
i'm bi, and i'm not out yet, so i understand how you're feeling. my advice is tell the people that matter the most to you first, and go from there. the people who care about you the most probably won't mind, and quite frankly if they do then they're not worth your time anyway. if the people you're closest too can't accept such a huge part of your life, then that's a problem.
if you told me i would think differently of you. and i'm being perfectly honest. I mean if you were my best friend and you were like I'm a lesbian...I would like...be weirded out. are you gonna start hitting on me and stuff?
I hope anon 4 was joking.
At least they're being honest about it...
i know that i don't completely understand... but i can empathize with your situation. think it out, don't do anything rash, and as other people have said--tell the ones that you care about the most, first. the rest of the people... well, they don't HAVE to know, and you don't HAVE to tell them... only if you truly feel comfortable. remember, it's about you... not them.
what anon 4 said is true though. people will have a change of opinion. and yes, chances are your closest friend might consider you likeing them (if you dont i might mention that when you tell them)but i would guess that they would soon getover whatever "change in opinion" they will have of you.
This is almost exactly like my experience. Except you're a girl.
Darn :(
I mean I can understand being surprised or weirded out if you didn't expect it, but assuming that someone will hit on you just becuase they are now open about their sexuality is in my opinion...naive. I don't hit on my male friends, and if I were lesbian I wouldn't hit on my female ones.
so queen sekaf if you dont hit on males or females what are you...asexual?? you start liking people because you like their personality, looks, body or whatever. and because you like them you start flirting or hitting on them..thats what happens.
and if you find out that your best friend is a lesbian...then you could wonder if they could of been hitting on you the whole time and you wouldnt of even noticed b/c your both girls. girls are closer with each other than guys that are best friends.
i guess the op would just have to make it clear to the best friend that thats not what she thinks.
but from experience...i'm a girl and i've had many really good guy friends. and i've fallen for them before. even when they have girlfriends or dont like me. so...anon4s point is legit.
Let me clarify - when someone makes it clear that they are interested in me in a romantic or sexual way, if I am interested too, then they leave the "friends" catagory. I'm saying that in general, most girls don't come on to guys who are obviously not into them, and so a lesbian girl would for the same reason not try to hit on a straight girl. That's very stupid scenario to be afraid of, especailly since gay people are hyperaware of their sexuality and whether or not they are making people uncomfortable.
i see your point.
but i still know PLENTY of girls that hit on guys that have made it crystal clear to the girl that they don't like them.
not to say all girls are like that. or all lesbian girls.
so i see what you're saying. but its definitely a possibility.
Someone I dated recently admitted they were bi. We're still friends.
If you go to enloe, go to a gsa meeting. If not, your friends are jerks and I feel really sorry for you.
What about her friends feelings?!
Doesn't anyone care about them?!
^^ haha i think that's about me
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