Would you date someone who believes in a different religion than yours?
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Would you date someone who believes in a different religion than yours?
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04:40:33 PM
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16 comments:
Yep.
Graffiti, that's because you don't have a religion.
Would I? Well, I guess technically I have. For a week and a day. I don't count it. I don't think she does. It was really more of a "I need a date to the 8th grade dance" more than anything.
That said, I don't think I could bring myself to date someone that isn't Jewish. My family would disown me.
yeah, probably, as long as there were no pressures from either end to convert or anything like that.
Oh yeah, who did you go with rashi? I forgot. :)
I went with...that guy...
But yes. I would. To the original question.
I would tell you, but you know, names aren't allowed on Tangst. I'll tell you over AIM later.
Although I am finding it quite funny that "the wife of rashi" is in fact herself not Jewish.
Oh well.
^
Rashi, I think it's kind of unfair of you to say that it's just because I'm not religious. I mean, just because I have lots of issues with organized religion... doesn't mean I won't date someone who's religious.
Just because I don't like Catholicism and the history around it... doesn't mean I wouldn't date a Catholic (not that they would date me).
I would date someone who doesn't share beliefs with me because that's not the most important thing in the world. To trust and love one another (definition of love? Different Tangst post, or may be someday if not already) is about all it comes down to.
Yeah. My boyfriend is agnostic and I'm Christian. It makes for good arguments sometimes.
yes.
i think that almost all religions have similar fundamental values: don't kill, steal, rape, and generally be friendly, nice, and helpful to those around you.
even if the person was not part of any organized religion, but still maintained those values, i think the relationship would be just as strong as, say, two super-Christian people in a couple.
hell yes i would, why not? in the end they are all the same.
Well the immediate answer to this question for me is OF COURSE, what a stupid thing to discriminate about. But upon further thinking, I realized that I would date someone who had a different religous background -but not necessarily someone with different religous fundamentals. I honestly don't think I could ever date someone who thinks people actually go to hell if they sin, or that Jesus walked on water, etc. Kind of like the way I couldn't date someone who thinks of Dashboard Confessional as a legitimate band. OK, maybe not quite like that, but you guys get the point. I would love to date someone from a different cultural background, becuase I think the traditions and all that acompany it are interesting and exciting (like Judaism is so cool). However, if there was a large discrepancy in our fundamental beliefs, it probably wouldn't work.
If your family or their family cares it could cause problems.
If they're the kind of person that would make fun of your religion (or you're the kind that would make fun of theirs) and the victim isn't a good sport or the villain isn't willing to shut the fuck up then you might have some problems.
Otherwise, I see no reason (unless you can find somewhere it says you're going to hell and you're scared about that.)
So basically there are a lot of reasons not to; you just have to wonder if they apply to you.
Would I mind dating a religious person (not being particularly religious myself)? no.
I have no real faith in anything so as long as I'm not being forced to convert, I'd be ok with that. Religion is unnecessary in any situation, if you ask me. Infact, I think most things are unnecessary. People take life far too seriously. Is it wrong that I don't give a shit about the effects we have on future generations? As long as I'm dead before the real madness starts, I don't really care what we think about each other.
^ If you ever have kids, you might not feel that way. And if we don't make some serious changes in the way we use energy and interact internationally now, the "real madness" probably will start within our lifetime, and definitely in that of the next generation.
I would as long as I still thought they were an okay person. For the most part, I'm interested in hearing other people's religious beliefs and don't care if they're somewhat different from mine. The only thing I would take issue with is if their moral values included killing and stuff like that, or if they were highly prejudiced against a specific group of people with no cause. And most of the common religions don't have much to do with either of those - a lot of it just depends on the person.
Basically, in that whole long ramblefest I was trying to say that as long as we didn't directly clash anyway, I'd date someone of a different religion.
What is religion anyway? Basically, a pathway/lifestyle to find "God" for what he/she/it/GOD really is, and on the way, (perhaps) find yourself.
So I believe it really doesn't matter which one you follow. As long as you know what your beliefs are.
I honestly consider myself all religions- I believe in little snippets of every religion. What I believe "God" is, is actually nothing found in any religion, it's just what I believe makes sense to me. I don't even believe that "God" is actually a "God", maybe it's just- good energy?
That being said, I've dated atheists/Christians/Muslims before and it was actually kind of fun debating the topic together.
Date? Sure.
Marry and raise a family? Perhaps. We would first have to discuss what kind of house to keep (and by "discuss" I mean "He agrees to keep a nominally Jewish household, even if he doesn't actively participate), how to raise any children, etc, because although I have no great rational attachment to my religion, it is my faith and I'm not willing to compromise it for another person's. With a Jewish husband, I could skip that conversation entirely (sort of, but that's a tangent).
And I understand why Jews in particular are wary of interfaith marriages. All five of my Jewish grandparent's children married outside of the faith, but only my mother sent her children to Hebrew School (and speaking of Hebrew School, that brings up another interesting discussion point on religion and growing up, but I'd hate to change the subject just yet). All of my cousins are either agnostic or actively Christian, and 1 (my mother) out of 5 (she and her siblings) is definitely not the kind of odds that favor interfaith marriage.
But I can't look at my parents' strong marriage and say that I'd never consider a non-Jewish husband. It'd feel hypocritical.
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