I didn't always think this, and I'm not sure of it now, but girls and boys think the same with regards to relationships (we don't know). Maybe this only applies to tangst because that's pretty much where this comes from. What I mean is that it seems like no one really likes anyone and that we only do what people expect us to do. Even when we do something seemingly original (for example being 'in love' with some one you hardly know), we launch into a series of actions that might constitute an obsession until we find something socially unacceptable about them or find something indicating the lack of mutuality of the relationship. Personally, I have a crush (for lack of a better word, it's more of an amusement principal than love) on someone in every single one of my classes. We really don't know what we feel and I don't know if we feel anything but lonely anymore.
No offense tangsters, but I think this is the first tangsty post in a while. Forgive me those of you who shouldn't be here.
Anonymous
11:28:49 PM
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'there is no love in this world anymore'
well, you kids can live in your lil' emo world, just don't shit on my parade k?
^^"I believe"?
That's only my most favorite song in the whole wide world.
i mean...when you have a friend of the opposite sex that you like to talk to or whatever....you get that 'crush'...but that doesn't mean you 'love' them as if you had been g/f and b/f forever. but just b/c you have one of those in every single class doesn't mean you dont have other friends. dont you have guy friends you hangout with...?
if not...get a life if you dont want to be lonely.
Pchis, you rain on everyone's parade.
Let us not attack someone who is using the site for what it was originally intended. The poster has a point. This is teen angst st its core.
And to you, OP, I submit the hypothesis that there is more than just one single kind of love in this world. There is that giddy feeling experienced when you meet or see a particularly attractive person. This is sometimes described as and sometimes leads to true love. "True" love I see as the union of two spirits or souls if you will. There is also the "love" that we feel for close friends or relatives, that which makes you concerned over an abscence from school or a midnight phone call you just barely missed.
As for your analysis of relationships and the course they take, I really can't argue with your process. But is it possible that the reason humans interact this way is that we do not know of any other way? I think that at their core, every person has insecurities (one of mine happens to be misspelling words in Tangst posts) and those inner doubts cause us to shelter ourselves within our absolute comfort zones. This is a behavior that I have tried to avoid lately (though I fear I have misspelled a word or two here) and I occasionally meet a person who seems to be willing to go all out for the enjoyment of life. I envy these people, able to live without reservations.
But consider for a moment the result of this self-imposed sheltering. Maybe we're all so caught up in worrying about who likes us and who doesn't that we don't stop to do anything about those who want us to like them.
I'm not sure if I'm addressing the basic issue here, but I just started typing and this is what came out. So long and farewell, dear friends.
Good luck always in life and love.
^ I had to take a nap halfway through that.
What I meant by my little comment is that the OP is taking an extremely pessimistic way of analyzing these various events.
These things we do are just the beginning of a journey to find what we want, and only a very few find what they're looking for at this age.
We need to find our own happiness, not expect others to give it to us.
There's no such thing as a free lunch...
but lunch can be rull tasty.
Me too, anonymous4.
Apologies knight, but I didn't mean this to apply to everyone and everything (I guess it just seemed as such). I have some pretty fucked up relationships (not all romantic) right now.
Anon 3, yes, I am a guy; yes, I have guy friends. I don't really like them or actually talk to them, though. Philosophical debates are reserved for tangst and my closer, female friends. Also, I go to Enloe; I can't have a life.
well then OP....we just all wont have a life together. thats cool. and if you dont like any of your friends....get new ones. people are chill....dont hate life b/c you dont have to.
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