to the broader tangst audience: if you had two girls,
1. one a great friend you can communicate well with, and with whom you had a lot of chemistry in an off and on attraction sort of way. it's fun and it works well between you two.
2. and the other a girl who you've liked for what seems like a long(ish) time, and was mysterious and unattainable, but has now chosen to try and let a relationship happen. you also have a lot of chemistry with this girl, but she's sort of hard to contact and be around. she will also be gone in a couple of months.
who would you choose?
Anonymous
09:54:48 PM
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Friends let friends choose guys.
That's all I've got to say.
as dorky as this might sound:
which girl would give the world to see you be happy? and which would you do the same for in return?
dude, you totally know in your heart which one is right. the answer just hasn't reached your brain yet. if your losing sleep over it, i suggest reading between the lines of your post. there the decision lies.
You should never date your best friend. If you ever break up, it is very likely things will never be the same (or so they tell me).
I'm going with option 2. As much as I would love to be in a relationship, I think my problem is that I really don't know how to be in one. I wouldn't want to jeopardize a friendship because of my own shortcomings. That's not fair to either of us. And so what if she'll be gone in a couple of months? My parents staged a long distance relationship during college, and it worked out fine.
Choose the one that won't blow you off. Nothing worse than being blown off.
My friend, have you ever considered a certain citation to be a sign or answer regarding this question? Freedom these days tends to ride on four wheels.
You know what I think about fate and irony....
or perhaps direction.
Think about it.
i seriously disagree with thewordofrashi. didn't someone once say the the most successful relationships start out as "just friends?"
and no offense to thewordofrashi or anything, but if someone says
"As much as I would love to be in a relationship, I think my problem is that I really don't know how to be in one..." should you really take relationship advice from them?
having to choose between a long-time friend and a long-lusted-after crush has happened to me before. here's my advice to you:
you should go with the one you feel more comfortable around (in this case it seems like #1). the more comfortable and easy you are around eachother before the relationship begins, the better you will understand eachother and communicate in the long run.
i hope everything works out in everyone's best interest. good luck.
Hey - I'm not saying it never works, I'm just saying that I've heard a lot of girls complain about having been in relationships with good friends. And when it goes wrong, it can go seriously wrong, and you will never look at each other the same way again. I think if you meet someone, and based on your first impression you decide you want to date them, then indeed you will become good friends, but in a different context. That said, I am always more comfortable around people I already know, and I would be much more willing to date them. So in that sense, I just contradicted myself. Basically, I don't know. I don't know you (or do I?) and I don't really know your situation. Just follow your heart.
Which one cares more about you and which one cares more about themself?
Does either have a boyfriend?
I'd say go with two cause it seems like it could work or it might not and hell they're gone in a few months anyways, so you get some experience, some good times, and it's pretty worthwhile. And if it doesn't work, well you guys weren't lifelong friends, no skin off your back.
Number 2 seems less risky if you are trying to weigh the pros and cons.
If you know you like number one though, go with that.
from the op:
thanks, i appreciate the input.
I would SO choose the first one.. but then again.. im SO biased.... with my current love interest...
i instantly have this inner bias for choice 1... at least you know that she will probably support you, and be there for you emotionally. and that's something that many relationships lack even when going into a marriage.
also, you seem a lot more apprehensive about choice 2... "she's sort of hard to be around..."?
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