I need some advice on wether asking someone out online is acceptable or not.
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05:38:44 PM
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Advice: No.
Unless of course they are some sort of software or being of pure energy that can only converse online. Otherwise, it's an absolute, unequivocable no.
That's a negator, skeletor.
The closest you should use to technology is a telephone. But no email, and no IM!
Eh, I could disagree with you guys. In certain circumstances (ie, if your only form of communication is aim), I would say it's okay.
I would advise you not to -- from experience.
Asking someone out online is equivalant to a "Will you go out with me? _yes _no" note from 7th grade. Don't do it.
If your only form of communication ever is AIM then I doubt you should be "going out" to begin with Anonymous 3.
I have had girls "ask me out" online. It is intensely comfortable and not a good idea.
Err, sorry. I meant Anonymous 2.
if you guys already hang out a lot, i can see asking someone out to a certain thing (for example: wanna go to a movie?) but if you have never asked them out before and this is a literal WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME AND BE MY BF/GF then hell no, what you thinkin fool?
I suppose, TF, that I was referring to a specific case (and I suppose I mean "only form of communication AVAILABLE").
no. never.
Well just to go against the grain and give a novel answer:
No, it's not okay.
Ah, I shall be a rebel. Words are words are words, and if you use them correctly and they have the right meaning behind them, then it shouldn't matter if you ask them out face-to-face or through a textbox on a screen. If you happen to be having a conversation with them online and it suddenly just seems right to pose the "hey, wanna be more than friends?" question, I see no problem with posing it.
if you're asking about a specific occasion, sure, its fine. but if by "asking someone out" you mean actually making that move and raising your relationship, NO. do it in person. you'll feel better. you'll handle it better. it will be more authentic and gratifying.
no... aim makes it too unpersonal... and i doubt aim is ever the only form of communication... ever hear of a phone?? or... in person??
The problem with AIM isn't the words themselves - that, I agree, can be duplicated. The problem resides the fact that you they cannot hear your voice, see your facial expressions, your body language. It's that sort of thing that shows your genuineness, and ultimately raises your likelihood of success.
don't do it.
ok, i think i got the point
Asking someone out online. I think somebody already said this, but I'd like to reinforce.
If he/she is your good friend, then I think it's okay to ask them to a movie or something over aim. Because a) if they are your good friend, making it an obvious "date" could be kind of akward, and b) it just makes the entire experience more casual.
However, if this is somebody that you don't know that well, ask them in person. It's more personal. Or if you want this person to, for lack of a better term, "go steady" with you, then you better talk to he/she in person.
Ok, I think we've beaten this to death. No one needs to say anything more, as I think the OPs gotten the point.
...well, to just reinforce my counterpoint a little, I asked out the person who would later become the love of my life through a well-crafted email. The relationship hasn't suffered for it.
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