I think we should start a discussion to create a list of break up rules, how, when and where to break up...
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11:31:00 PM
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I think we should start a discussion to create a list of break up rules, how, when and where to break up...
Anonymous
11:31:00 PM
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10 comments:
1. Never, ever, ever, ever break up by either phone, email, Facebook, IM, snail mail, or anything electronic. You MUST do it to their face. If you can't do that, you have been wasting your time.
2. If you're going to break up, KNOW that you are going to break up. Do not let your ex try to talk you out of it.
3. Once you break up, STOP TALKING TO THE PERSON. It'll be better for both of you, I promise.
4. Never break up in front of a crowd, a la that video from UNC that came out around Valentine's Day. It just makes you look like a dick.
5. Be prepared to give a reason, but try to be nice about it. "It isn't working out" or "It's not you, it's me" are not sufficient.
6. Don't break up right before something big, such as prom. That just makes the other person miserable, and makes you look like a dick.
That's all I got for now. Feel free to add.
7. If you want to break up, don't prolong your misery, or theirs. chances are that they know you're unhappy.
I think A1 is stupid. You can break up however you want. It doesn't matter if you're a dick or not... you're breaking up with them.
I think the best way is just a quick email "Don't try to talk to me or see me ever again."
I plan to employ it frequently!
i agree 100% with anon 1. those should be the rules to follow. as for anon3 - those are the dicks you want to avoid =)
sometimes the only possibility to break up is over the phone. but trust me its not fun.
in response to #5 sometimes its not you its me is the only reason. just accept it
i think six and seven contridict
when you break up dont do the whole
your (insert complement here) But...
it makes it hurt worse
8. know that on some level it will hurt you, even if it doesn't appear to hurt the person your breaking up with.
9. always leave a space of half the time you were together (it really should be as long but..) before you get together with someone else
out of respect.
and keep in mind
you will get hate mail from your ex gf friends
or be slapped
expect it
If she has to break up with you over the Internet because you're scared of confrontation and you won't answer your phone or return her voicemails, it's really really lame.
But it's also really really your fault.
Number 9 is invalidated in cases of cheating and/or abuse. No respect needed.
I don't think you need to wait 6 months to go out with someone if you dated your ex for a year. Screw that.
As for rule #5 on anon1's list... if the person has decided to break up with the other, if they don't want to give a reason... then they don't have to. It's really up to them whether or not they wish to explain themselves. Sure, it can be a kind gesture, but it is not a requirement.
Here, the only rule that matters:
Break up in a manner most fitting to your relationship plans in the future - be them with that person or with acquaintances of that person.
Such as, if you want to stay their friend, and possibly date someone who knows them, then you do not act like a dick. You do it a kind, peaceful manner.
However, if you are, say, moving away or want nothing to do with them (like if they cheated on you) then go ahead and break up in front of a crowd.
That is the only rule necessary.
The rule, I think, is that you do not date for one week for every month you dated, with a cap on 6 weeks.
It is fine to not date for longer than that but after that period you should acknowledge the other person's right to date and not interfere or confront the person about any new relationships.
In cases where you leave your whatever for someone else it's fine to date that someone else but you should avoid being affectionate with that person in public and have your dates where your ex-whatever will definitely not be.
In cases of cheating these rules mostly go away since a person who cheats is already ignoring proper dating etiquette of only dating one person at a time unless explicitly implied but rebound dating is probably not a good idea anyway so you should probably follow that rule anyway.
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