Im tearing myself apart.
I've been obsessed with this one girl for a couple months now, but i'ts become obvious that she has little or no interest in me that way, but we have become very good friends.
Now, im trying to do everything I can to get over her and move on, but whenever i so much as see her or hear her voice, i fall for her again. All i can do now is ignore her compleatly, which goes against how i feel, and hurts me even more.
What hurts the most, though, is that I may be losing a friend, too, in all of this. I honestly have no fucking clue what to do, and it's emotionally destroying me.
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10:29:01 PM
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maybe continue to like her and enjoy her company- she might in turn begin to like you. you shouldnt expect her feelings to be as strong and as rapid as yours...it could take a while if you're willing to wait
I am in the exact same situation. The guy I like has never been interested, and I know that, but I can't seem to help how I feel. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but everytime we talk or hangout my heart beats a little faster.
I, also, do not want to ignore him (which is actually pretty impossible in my situation because of class etc.) but it seems to be the only way to get over it.
I've basically just decided to live with it. Keep him as a friend, try to subdue my feelings as much as possible, and hope for the best (a.k.a that he will eventually start liking me too)
anon 1- this started in september. i'd hardly call that "rapid"
anon 2- yeah, i literally can't go the day without seeing her. I feel towards her the same way you feel towards him. the problem is, if something were going to happen, it would have happened by now. I'm just trying to move on so i can be happyish.
i know people who've liked the same girl since freshmen year (jr's now) - and for one of them, its worked out.
OP, if something "would have happened" by now, it would have (most likely) been your doing.
And if you haven't, then something wouldn't have happened by now.
But if you're just going to ignore her, ask her out and let her deny you. That makes ignoring each other a LOT easier.
And hey, she might even say yes.
pchis, can you say "four times"?
Suck it up. I have a friend like this (in this exact situation), hell, it might even be you, and I can tell you that it's bad. Really bad.
I've been in this situation too and there's no quick way out of it. I had to go one long, hard summer of moping and being completely ridiculous when I came to the realization that who I liked didn't really like me back. A whole summer. I'm still not over the guy and whenever I see him (when he visits from college...) I fall for him again. You can try to make yourself angry at this girl (I tried it, it works a little bit, but not really), you could just try to accept it, or you could busy yourself with other things.
Or you could listen to mopey music and complain about it. It doesn't help, but it's really fun.
Four times?! I suppose I didn't give the word "obsessed" it's due.
In that case, yes, ignore her.
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