I'm hooking up with a boy who really, REALLY likes me. I already shot down the idea of a stable relationship once and it broke his heart but he continued to hook up with me. I don't know if I can do it again. I really like sleeping in his bed and giving him kisses and having lots of sex but he's just not what I'm looking for. How do I break it to him that I'm not interested in something exclusive?
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Just tell him the truth. You're not in a position to enter a relationship.
It has nothing to do with him, but he needs to realize that you're not as into him as he seems to be into you.
However, you do need to stop the physical side as well. For many men it is hard to differentiate between the physical and emotional sides of a relationship. The two are inextricably tied if the man feels both attractions. In his mind, you continuing to hook up with him is akin to you saying you share his emotional attachment to you.
With this guy it is all or nothing, and you can't continue to hook up with him and still avoid hurting him.
For many men it is hard to differentiate between the physical and emotional sides of a relationship.
That's news to me. Usually it's the other way around. Women can't differentiate between casual sex and a true relationship. That's a biological thing, too. Men have every incentive to spread their seed to as many as possible, while women want the most dominant man to protect and provide for them.
Really, anon? I'm a chick and LOVE some good casual sex. And I have MANY other girlfriends who feel the same way. Don't generalize, and speak for yourself.
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