Wednesday, December 24, 2008

We're going to have sex. I really think we are. I'm so excited and I'm so scared. I'm a virgin and I'm 18.


Anonymous
11:23:00 PM
12/24/2008

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

You should have sex when you have decided that you are mature enough to be safe about it. Speaking as someone who just recently lost their virginity, be in control of yourself but enjoy the hell out of it. :D

OP said...

Yeah, I definitely know how to protect myself and I practically had to beg him. He's insisting on fingering and eating me out first and I'm more scared about that than the actually sex. What if I taste...you know, gross down there? And I don't shave because it makes me all itchy...but neither does he. Ah, as you can tell I'm freaking out a little bit, but I know I want this

Anonymous said...

Sounds good to me, OP dear. If he knows what he's doing, fingering and eating you out will be great. If not, it'll be a learning experience for you both.

Don't worry about shaving. Honestly. Especially if he doesn't do much with his own junk. If he's spending too much time checking out your hair patterns, he's not the one you should be with. Check out some related topics on tangst by searching for terms like 'shaving' and 'hair' in the box at the top-left of the main site.

Go for it, girl. Just make sure you enjoy every bit of what you do. And remember that no matter how good/bad the first time is, it'll be dwarfed by every experience thereafter.

Merry Christmas!

OP said...

Thank you so much for your advice! Haha, I really don't know what I'm doing but he does. Merry Christmas to you too. I'm pretty sure it's gonna be a good one ;)

Anonymous said...

It's not necessary to shave, definitely. Some girls I know like to trim, so they feel more groomed. Shaving is unhealthy because that hair is there for a reason. You might want to get your guy to do some trimming too because if you ever do oral on him, hair is not something you want in your mouth-trust me, ew. Just talk to him about it and if he doesn't want to then maybe he isn't mature enough to get serious.

Anonymous said...

If you are not comfortable enough to be fingered or pleasured by means other than actual intercourse by your partner, will you be ready and comfortable enough to have sex with said guy?

OP said...

We've been having some very intense text messages at night. I've never felt more ready in my life. I just can't wait to see him again... I think it's natural to be scared about my first time, isn't it? It's just human nature to fear the unknown...

Anonymous said...

Don't forget to plan what you will do if you get pregnant.

OP said...

Oh don't worry that's definitely not going to happen. I just got on the pill and I'll make him use condoms too. If for some freak reason I did get pregnant, it would be a joint decision about what to do.

Anonymous said...

Hahaha! "Oh, don't worry, that's definitely not going to happen!" Heard that one before. And I don't have to worry, but you should. Good luck with "making him use condoms" just like you can make him keep caring for you when he's tired of hanging around with you, and good luck with that joint decision thing when you're pregnant, too. Your trimmed or not-trimmed bush will be the least of your problems. What an airhead! Yeah, don't worry. That's smart. Just don't say you weren't warned.

OP said...

Wow, I asked for advice, not to be attacked. I'm not an airhead, thank you. I'm an AP/IB student with straight A's. I am an intelligent human being. And yes, I can "make" him use condoms. Simple- no condom = no sex. I dunno about you but if my guy won't do that for me, than he's probably not worth having sex with at all. And yea, if I did magically get pregnant despite all my precautions, it would be a joint decision. The potential baby would be half his, if he was interested. I'm not just gonna go skip off and make the decision on my own. I resent your implication he will lose interest after we have sex. If he does and I get my heart broken, will you really feel any better?

Anonymous said...

My sister has four kids (including twins), none of them expected, she was on the pill. It happens.

knight_racer979 said...

Good luck, OP.

The first time, if done right and with the right person, can be a truly wonderful and magical experience.

Just make sure you plan plenty of time before and after. Foreplay and post-coital cuddling are quite possibly just as important as the act itself.

OP said...

Ah... I can't wait! I have never wanted something so bad and every time I see him it's taking all of me to not just beg him to take me right then and there. Which would be a bad idea because I usually see him at work...

Anonymous said...

I wish somebody had told me about cystitis and yeast infections before I became sexually active. It's always more of a hassle, expense, and commitment for the women than for the men.

Anonymous said...

Come back in 6 months and tell us how smart and excited you feel when he's moved on to his next gullible virgin who only requires a condom and a few sexy promises to jump into bed with him. (He's probably texting her now.) And good luck with your new job after you have to quit this one to get away from it all. Didn't your parents teach you anything about the real world?

Seriously, and I offer this because I care: if this guy is so hot and wonderful, talk to him about stuff like pregnancy, supporting you, paying your medical bills, etc. before you just assume he's that great a person. Sounds like you're blinded with lust and promises = not good for you or anybody else. We don't want to see you learn the hard way.