Monday, September 10, 2007

So... I think I gave my boyfriend a handjob yesterday. Maybe. It was my first time and I don't know if I was actually any good.


Anonymous
09:25:00 PM

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Kudos. If it was your/his first time, I'm willing to bet he didn't mind much.

Anonymous said...

I would talk to him, both during and outside of the fact. You can even get him to show you how. Don't take it seriously and just have fun with it.

If you take steps to improve it really doesn't matter how good you start.

Anonymous said...

I think all handjobs are awkward the first time....many times they continue to be awkward. But yeah, if it was your first time, I doubt he minded. It took my girlfriend a lot of convincing that what she was doing actually felt good.

I agree with anonymous 2, though. The most important thing is to not take it too seriously. Sex (and foreplay) is supposed to be fun! So have fun with it. Some girls (and definitely guys) get really turned on by watching their partner masturbate. Give it a try.

Anonymous said...

yeah, i agree with those above me. Talk about it during the fact, ask him if it feels good, and if/when he does things for you, talk to him about it (it is a hell of alot harder to find the clit then it is to find the penis, and then the pressure and all that stuff comes into account too). It took my girlfriend and I a long time before we were both comfortable with everything, and we still talk about it if everything doesnt feel great during the process.

Anonymous said...

Well if it was the first time you've given a hand job it probably wasn't very great one. But I'm sure he appreciated it anyway and he probably wouldn't mind showing you how to give a better one.

Anonymous said...

How sad you come here and tell the world, feeling alone and seeking "advice" from strangers, instead of being in a safe and loving relationship where such things are private and sacred between a couple who have gotten to know, love, and trust each other.

Sounds like you are trying to substitute sex and technique for intimacy. This is all wrong and you feel it.

WAIT for the right guy, the right time in your life. Sex shouldn't be a toy. You deserve better.