I wonder how a person ever ends up both in love with a person and being loved by that same person. It seems like the odds of something like that happening are terrible.
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i know how you feel. i felt that way for a long time, too. and maybe it is really hard to find reciprocated love. but you will definitely find some strong feelings of reciprocated like, and this has been working quite well for me for now.
likewise. I think that if you get into a meaningful relationship with someone (not a fuck buddy thing) (and not only a physical relationship) the attraction turns into something more, somehting we call love.
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Ok. You speak of odds? It's not exactly like people start off with a database of a few names in their head and they have to "find" them before they die.
Odds aren't as important as one persons dedication. How it usually happens if one person finds another attractive and constantly tries to woo the other. Yes, the other person has to eventually reciprocate but you would be surprised how often sexual and emotion attractiveness aren't as important as simply accepting someone who believes they are "in love" with you. (A note on that last part: "love," most generally on the part of the person who gets this started is usually blown out of proportion in their mind to justify the time and energy they are devoting to the other person.)
"Love" is not a battlefield. Love is not a cold and broken hallelujah.
Love is contentment in another's convenience. Sad...
Love is not a cold and broken hallelujah.
I love that song.
But to the OP...that's what makes love so special when it DOES happen.
sorry dude, the whole point of that quote was to say that love is NOT like all those songs.
hence the intentional misquote.
did love the song enough to catch that?
No, I caught the reference, and the intentional misquote. I just like the song. Haha.
Let's be real, the odds are hardly overwhelming. I mean, it's not like you can just get up off your computer, go to starbucks, and find your soulmate, but I can think of so many people that are in love. And I know there are cynics out there who would say (and knowing this site will probably say) how a lot of those people are in denial or secretly hate each other or in some manner aren't "really" in love, but I'm gonna go ahead and say that's bullshit. I feel like if there are so many people out there who have truly found love, then there's gotta be a good chance everyone can. Maybe not today, hell, certainly not today, but someday, you'll find someone who you love and who loves you back. One could cite all the studies that show how people like to match up their immune systems and how certain factors increase how much people like each other or whatnot, but lets just say that love exists, it's special, and it's certainly within possibility.
and to Anonymous3: shit like that happens, but that's not real love. Love isn't contentment and convenience, it's a lot more than that. I would much rather believe love doesn't exist than convince myself that it is what you describe it to be.
PChis said it all, and he said it all right.
"I feel like if there are so many people out there who have truly found love, then there's gotta be a good chance everyone can."
Ha! The same goes for religion. So many people believe they have truly "found" Christ (God, etc.)
Love is quite simply an obsessive attachment originally brought upon by evolutionary desires to find mates and then confused by ever-changing, ever-diluting views of romance.
It's as magical as nerve-ending firings and as foolish as the idea of spontaneous generation.
Don't get me wrong, I prefer The Princess Bride to Bio-psychology, but hey, people prefer the afterlife to nothingness too.
A note of clarification on that last post.
People believe they have truly found the "love" they believe exists - all that hyped up bullshit, my clarification is that, even if love exists, is not in the way people think. The whole tie to religion is along the lines of people deceiving themselves and, often times, developing their ideas of love from religions.
I hope that clears things up, sorry.
Ok, just becuase this annoyed me:
anon 3, the quote is "Love is not a victory march, its a cold and its a broken hallelujah"
"Love is quite simply an obsessive attachment originally brough upon by evolutionary desires to find mates and then confused by ever-changing, ever-diluting views of romance"
First of all, I don't think love is "quite simply" anything.
Perhaps it can be an obsessive attachment, but I don't think it has to be. It is an attachment to be sure, but obsession implies that it is a destructive force. And while it is a work and time commitment, I would not classify it with obsession.
It probably did come from evolutionary necessity, and I agree that it is confused by different views of romance, but I don't see how that detracts from it in any way.
"It's as magical as nerve-ending firings and as foolish as the idea of spontaneous generation."
I'm studying neuroscience, and I must say, neurons and how they work is pretty fucking magical. There's a lot we know, but there's still a hell of a lot we don't know, as is true about most subjects I suppose.
As to spontaneous generation, it wasn't exactly foolish. People were calling it as they were seeing it, and it made perfectly logical sense at the time.
Love is a lot like both of those things. We know a lot, but there's a lot we don't know, and all we can really do is call it as we see it and hope we get it mostly right.
I feel there's something to be said for self-fulfilling prophecies here.
And remember, the glass isn't half empty or half full.
It's both.
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