I am so materialistic it is unbelievable. Yet, I have less posessions than my friends. All I can think about is what I want to buy and what I want.
I care about other things, but not as much as materialistic things. Maybe its a side effect of growing up in a family that was so money conscious that it was scrutinized everyday of my life, and still is today. I grew up thinking that my family was poor, my parents always argued over money. I thought we were under-priveledged, my parents made me bring home the reduced-meal forms at the beginning of every year and seeing if they could finally "qualify" for them this year.
Now I find out we have over one million saved up in the bank for no serious use. Their retirement is taken care of, both me and my sibling's college tuition is taken care of. Why have my parents deprived me and not my dear younger sibling? Everything I buy is a big deal. Every $10 shirt I buy seems to pain my parents... What is wrong with my parents. They let my sibling have everything, then they turn around and act as if the world is ending when I buy something a fraction of the price.
I am not the favored child.
Life is unfair, and I doubt I will get any nice comments in response to this. Because once again, I SOUND like a selfish brat...
Anonymous
10:08:43 PM
13 comments:
I mean kindof....
but you actually would be a selfish brat if you got everything you ever wanted.
be GLAD your parents dont let you get whatever...b/c thats how to experience life. if you did get everything you wanted you'd be living in a fake little world and then when you tried to go off by yourself you'd crash.
my parents are like that minus the extra money and my cousins get all the money and frankly...I dont like to spend time with them.
people usually dont like the person you wish you could be.
look at the other side of the coin. your parents are surrounding you in an environment that is financially cautious. its far better than the flip side.
my parents treat my sibling and i similarly. i gained money management ideals and have a couple thousand saved in a bank. my sibling, on the other hand, struggles to keep a positive account balance and constantly borrows money from our parents.
weigh the benefits of your parents' actions before you rail against them. think about how their decisions could have a positive effect on you in the long run.
Furthermore, keep in mind what your parents went though. Chances are that their parents were Great Depression era people. During this time, as we all know, every investment was a crucial one and was made if absolutely NEEDED. Your parents were probably raised in a family that was quite frugal. My Dad is frugal because his dad had to be frugal in order to survive.
Not an explanation, but probable nonetheless.
As I read the post, I thought: yeah, this sounds a lot like my family.
Up until the 1 million dollars part.
Because we don't have that money.
But all the other anons are right. I still think about what I would buy if I had the money, but I also see how not having everything I wanted has allowed me to see the difference between material love, and real love. I actually thank my parents for it. Probably not enough though.
wow you parents are pretty cheap. and yea until the onemillion dollars part i thought it sounded like mine. your lucky to be in a family that can afford to pay for college and retire.
I mean its kinda funny to look at this from my opinon because when college and other major expenses are paid for at the little stuff like shirts and lunch seem so small and pointless.
Yeah, you do sound like a selfish brat.
I'm part Jewish, why?
Oh dear god no, the stereotypes...
haha just asking, but yea stereotypes do affect people's thinking and judgement frequently. hmm maybe its just that your parents like that sense of security incase something wrong is going to happen.
^But that's no excuse for screwing up their kid and making them so material-centric. They pushed it even to the point that the OP assumed all along that their family were poor. If you have money you shouldn't keep every cent of it locked away and especially not keep it a secret from your kids. In the end feelings are going to be hurt ("you have money to spend on your retirement, but none to make my childhood comfortable?!") and fragile young mids are going to be muddled with.
What irks me most though is that this family is taking advangtage of the government by pretending to be poor when they obviously aren't ("my parents made me bring home the reduced-meal forms at the beginning of every year")
^ Did I seriously just type "their family were poor"?
*hides in internet shame*
your parents sound chinese... am i right?
Do I write like I am Chinese or Jewish? No, I am not Chinese or even Asian for that matter.
In response to Anon whatever number who talked about the reduced-lunch meals,and said,
What irks me most though is that this family is taking advangtage of the government by pretending to be poor when they obviously aren't ("my parents made me bring home the reduced-meal forms at the beginning of every year")
My parents never got around to "taking advantage" of the government because they are rule-abiding people and the fact that our income was never at the correct amount to receive reduced lunch, we never got it.
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