I dated a guy for almost a year. We had a wonderful, casual, and realistic relationship. When we decided to break up it wasn't easy, but it could've been worse. After we broke up he was a real dick to me for a few months, butgot over it, for the past year we've been good friends. He is now dating one of my best friends, they are in a healthy long term relationship.
However, sometimes he is still really mean to me. He always judges my appearance, making comments that make me feel uncomfortable. He accuses me of trying to "steal" his girlfriend, even though he spends much more time with her than I do. He makes it very clear that she is much more important to him than me, often in rude or unneccesary ways. He speaks very openly about the sexual aspect of their relationship, often in a rude/immature/unneccesary manner. I know she would be offended by that.
My question is whether or not I should tell her about this. I don't want her to feel like I'm making her choose sides. She doesn't really know any of this is going on. I feel like she has a right to know, but at the same time I don't think it would change her relationship with him.
Anonymous
09:29:35 PM
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Do what you believe is best for the long run, how do you think she'll react to the accusation that her boyfriend is being a real dick and what ramifications could that reaction create with your relationship with her?
It won't mess up our relationship at all. I have known her longer than she has known him, and she trusts me very much. I know she would not blame for for telling her. I just don't want to do that to her.
Have you talked to him about this?
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