One thing that bothers me every time is when people ask me about arranged marriages. I understand that it is hard for people to know how modern arranged marriages work and I try to not get annoyed but I still do. Yes, I am going to have an arranged marriage. No, this does not mean I will marry a person that I have never met in my entire life. No, this does not mean I have no say in the decision. No, this does not mean i have been promised to someone since i was 5.
What it does mean is that when i'm at the right age for marriage (anywhere from 22 onwards) my parents will start looking for a guy for me. They will ask other families if they know anyone etc. They will receive information about any potential guy like their job etc. and then if it is a possibility then the families meet. If I do not like the guy for any reason I can say no and they keep looking. If I do like him we can "date" for awhile and then decide.
I, personally, like this process a lot. It takes off a lot of the stress of finding someone. If I do, by some chance, find someone I like on my own then I could marry him. It might be more difficult to convince my parents but it is possible.
Yes, some "traditional" arranged marriages still take place where the guy and girl have never met etc. but rarely, or only in rural areas.
Anonymous
07:03:36 PM
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im sorry you get annoyed! but thank you for posting this, now we all know.
learn something new every day.
Considering the huge number of divorces that occur these days by people who choose their partners themselves, I would venture to say that your system is not bad at all. In fact, it's quite reassuring.
It would be nice to have a little relationship security -to know that you aren't going to end up being the old maid with dozens of cats, who when she dies, no one will know and the cats will eat her carcas.
Glad it works for you..but my parents can be complete dumbasses in that area.
That would actually be somewhat nice.
I have a friend in a similar situation as you, and so she's explained this to me before. But I think that it's actually sort of cool, and that it would work out well in most cases.
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