I've been horny for a few weeks now and I decided to give masturbating a try.
I've tried at least 10 times now and I still haven't had an orgasm. I've read up to see what objects I might use and tried a few(pen,pencil,hairbrush,etc.)
And I'm getting pretty frustrated at this point. any suggestions or ideas? anyone?
Anonymous
01:24:00 PM
8/10/2008
4 comments:
I'm going to go out on a limb and infer that you're a girl. But you may just be a kinky guy. Either way, here's your friendly tangsty anonymous PSA:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation
http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/masturbatewomen.htm
http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/masturbatemen.htm
http://www.google.com/search?&q=how+to+masturbate
Just relax. That's the most important thing you can do.
Yeah, relax and enjoy yourself.
That's the whole point.
I feel for you. It is SO HARD to have an orgasm if you've never had one before, because you've got no idea what you're trying to get to. It's not very intuitive-- I don't even remember how I managed to stumble on my first one, but Anon5 is right in that it gets easier after the first time.
Anon5 might not be right with the clenching thing-- I've always found that if you can train yourself to relax all those muscles despite them wanting to tighten up (like muscles do when tickled), orgasm comes a lot more easily and better.
From the things you said you're using, it sounds like you're looking for objects to stick into your vagina. This isn't always the best way to masturbate. You'd think that imitating sex would be the way to go, but many girls (myself included) rarely bother with penetration when they're masturbating. Focus on the clitoris. Sometimes it's good to have something in the vagina to help it relax (vibrators work well for that) or to give some additional stimulation, but the clit is where it's all at, baby. That's where the major orgasm-inducing nerve endings are in nearly all women.
Be sure to use some kind of lubrication (spit, KY jelly, aloe vera, hair conditioner) or you could rub yourself raw. Be gentle at first. The clit and the penis are related, but a clitoris can't take the same beating a penis can. Rub gently with a finger, experiment with different speeds, rub in a circle or a line, figure out what feels best-- and realize that what feels best might change as you keep going or as you approach orgasm. Try a vibrator if you have access to one. Sometimes vibration is better than friction, sometimes the other way around; clits are fickle beasties who rarely respond the same way twice.
As far as reaching orgasm, it's hard to describe one in a way that would help you recognize when you're getting close to one if you've never had one before. It's sort of like a wave building higher and higher, then finally breaking-- but that's what somebody told me before I'd ever had an orgasm and it sure didn't help me at all. I guess the only thing to say is that when you have one, you will KNOW it.
Tune in next time for More Things you Never Wanted to Know about Swalest'Shooth's Sex Life! Next week: Anal play!
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