I'm really attracted to him and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me. I want to have sex with him- how do I make it happen?
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well, try to go a little slowly at first.
This is one of the most awful topics I have ever seen.
"I like him, he likes me, let's have sex!"
Please tell me there is more to this than meets the eye.
I'm with Rashi. You have got to be kidding me.
^ i hope so too.
dear, these feelings are caused by the emergence of something called hormones. as a teenager now, you can expect to feel these urges.
with great feeling comes great responsibility. you must understand that most people consider action on such instincts to be socially unacceptable, impolite, and/or offensive.
if you are female, know that this surge of feelings (hormones) is a regular, cyclical occurrence that you can expect monthly.
if you are male, learn to check your penis at the door; you're not cool or special just because it got bigger.
^ Sex is socially unacceptable, impolite, and/or offensive?
Anyway, I don't actually know how you would suddenly have sex with someone. You could try kissing him and see what that leads to.
To answer your question, OP:
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Are you sure that's what you really want?
20 dorrar?
Casual sex and promiscuity are detrimental to the physical and emotional well-being of women. Even though you and he may have that all-so-erotic conversation about past sexual histories and sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy prevention before you have sex with him (sure, that will happen!), there is still no condom for the heart. Women, who are biologically hard-wired to bond through physical intimacy, pay dearly for trying to pretend they think, feel, and can act like men and hook up with no consequences (including financial consequences for all the medical bills).
Get a clue! Read "Unprotected" by Miriam Grossman, M.D.
^ sounds like a sexist if ive ever heard one.
Oh yeah, hate men and "go lesbian." That's an answer for a meaningful life.
I think I'd rather give myself time to find the right someone to love who will love me back the way I want and deserve. Casual sex based on "attraction" is sure not the way to do it.
Look, if she wants to have meaningless sex it's really her decision. If it causes her emotional pain, whatever. Live and let live.
Personally I think it's beautifully simple to have sex with someone only because you are attracted to them and not have any excess commitment or emotion.
Why is not feeling "excess" commitment or emotion for someone a good thing when you put your whole body into it? And who is defining it as "excess"?
There is nothing simple about sex among humans, though many wish it were so.
The problem is the difference in who's defining excess, and the disparity in partners. Male and female work differently. It is harder for females to make themselves "not care" when the males really don't care.
The OP might not be a female. But I mean assume away, people.
In all seriousness, sex is a dangerous, wonderful thing that should be taken seriously. I don't want to recite the tired axioms of baffled parents but.. suffice it to say, be careful.
Once upon people had sex with each other because they wanted to. Shame that those times might be past us, but I think anyone that wants to have sex should at least make an attempt to understand what they are getting themselves into.
Whatever, it's hard to stop libido. And this imaginary community especially can do little to stop our OP. So... maybe we just relax and realize we can't fix everyone.
They don't call it "making love" for nothing. It's not simple.
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