People have confirmed the fact that you like me. I mean, it's not like you were trying to keep it a secret. You know this will ruin our friendship.
So, for your own good and the good of our friendship in the long run. I will now initiate the avoiding-you-at-all-costs phase. I will be friendly in forced contact, but you probably won't see me for a while.
If you continue to like me then I will be forced to escalate to the ignoring-you-completely phase.
AND if you don't take the hint I will resort to the being-mean-to-you-for-no-apparent-reason phase.
Good luck, comrade. I hope this doesn't take long.
Anonymous
05:59:45 PM
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That's mean. I hope I don't know you.
I also really hope you aren't the person I like.
This and the one before it could have been written to each other.
*sigh*
I don't like this philosophy.
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Completely ignoring, avoiding, and being mean to someone will not ever be good for the relationship. Sorry to burst the crusade bubble, but you have to be kind to continue to be friends.
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Instead of hearing a rumor from other people and just kind of going with it, why don't you talk to the person? Then you can actually talk about the problem instead of using those tactics as a way of avoiding communication.
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Smile and love - Doc A.
I've done this before.
It's not really a thing anyone wants to do- it's kind of instinctual. I know exactly what the original poster is getting at.
You feel bad but you do it anyways.
Doc A- that sounds nice, but unrealistic that they would confront the other person. Think about it- we're highschoolers.
But even high schoolers should be able to have enough compassion to try to relate to someone instead of just doing like the OP.
Otherwise... the human race may be lost.
I just love losing friends for no reason.
Yeah, losing friends. That's the best.
I definitely want a friend who's so repulsed by me that the mere thought of my affection (actually, since I'm gay this doesn't really work: it applies to pretty much all of my male friends, but work with me) is enough to ruin our friendship and create awkward meanness.
Hmmm, yeah.
Confront the person. It's the only way. And, yes, high schoolers ARE capable of such things when they try. Drama will only come if you create it.
^ My thoughts exactly.
To all misled crushers out there, LISTEN TO THE HINTS. We're sending them out like crazy and it's your job to be on top of things. You're the one that initiated the awkwardness and the ideal scenario is that you come on to us, we give you hints that it's not going to work, you back down and we both go back to normal. That's the only way in my experience for these things to not leave a lasting dent in the relationship.
Discretion is the better part of valor, people.
I've always found that to be the bad way to do things, because if you really set your mind on a person you can completely turn these "hints" into nothing. There's no way to turn "look, we need to have the 'we're just friends conversation'"(okay granted that's probably not the best line to throw out there, but that's just jist), into "I think he still likes me" without being just a tad ridiculous.
Also, if people followed these "hints" then perhaps a person who isn't sending hints could just have a bad day and accidently send them and then repulse someone they actually like.
So to put this all in one sentence:
Seriously, you're being a douchecock, just talk to them.
-PChis
Could you define douchecock, PChis? I seriously don't know what it means. Or anyone else could define it.
Douche (Wikipedia.org)
Use your imagination.
i have been trying the same plan... it's hard, how can you treat a friend like that? i mean, you know it's for the better good, but it's just... hard...
good luck
i suggest doing something really nasty in front of him that will turn him off completely.
then you'll go back to being friends, and you've staved off any future romantic advances. without killing him inside by ignoring him.
because who knows, if he's this oblivious he might confuse the avoiding-you-at-all-costs phase as you playing hard to get.
Upon re-reading... I definitely should have known who this was at the first reading.
This is why I have so much trouble announcing my feelings for people. Because I'm afraid that this is the response I will get.
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