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Saturday, February 25, 2006
Mom hit me with a door.. and no it's not funny my face is bruised
Hah, I got hit with a door the other day, bent my glasses.
If your mom meant to do it, then it's not funny, but if she just happened to hit you with a door, then I'll have to disagree with you, because that's absolutely hilarious.
I'm still not sure where I stand on the whole parental violence thing. There are simply situations in which it's perfectly warrented for someone to hit somebody else. In my experience there have been a few times when I was being way out of line and being completely rude to a parent and I was hit for it and made to understand that just because I'm taller doesn't mean I'm in charge and that I still have to do what they say. I'm glad for it in the long run.
I'm sure she didn't exactly mean to hurt you and was acting out of anger, but I'm sure next time you'll think twice before entering that same situation again.
^As a rule I only beat up on kids when they're defenseless and easy to scar emotionally. Provides 'em with plenty of fodder for the shrinks when they grow up and promotes a healthy relationship of fear The littler the better, that's my motto!
Guys, I'm not talking about coming home and beating the shit out of little kids, what I am saying is that young toddlers have morals based on what they recieve. It takes a while for children to get the whole "this is bad because morals dictate it." Their morals are based off of "if I eat the cookie what will happen?" If they get reprimanded they probably won't care so much. If they get spanked they'll think twice about taking the cookie again.
It's not an out of anger thing, it's a you-did-this-and-these-are-the-consequences thing. At our age we don't generally get spanked anymore, so physicaly punishment is generally the parent losing their temper and hitting their kid, which is not a good thing.
The only time it's ever really a good thing is if it's never used, and it happens one time, because then you know you've really crossed the line and need to reevaluate what you're doing.
But I'm glad you all think I like beating children, or love to joke about it.
I think that it is ok to hit a child very lightly after they have done something really bad but violence isn't usually an appropriate punishment. With little children time outs can seem like terrible punishments anyways.
I still think that even spankings or very light hits are wrong. It's all about power- you don't have to show your authority over children by hitting them. I can't believe you guys would even think about that.
I probably think this way because I was never, ever hit as a child and I turned out just fine. My discipline issues were solved through other means (Go to your room! No dinner young lady- Go straight to bed! Timeout, NOW!)But my parents never even thought about striking me.
when i first read this post i had an image of this middle-aged woman picking up a huge wooden door and hurling it at someone. it was quite funny in my head.
OP, that IS abuse. Abuse isn't necessarily constant. But... puncture wounds? Hair torn out? Abuse could be a one-time breakdown from anger, but it's still abuse.
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Hah, I got hit with a door the other day, bent my glasses.
If your mom meant to do it, then it's not funny, but if she just happened to hit you with a door, then I'll have to disagree with you, because that's absolutely hilarious.
Wear your bruise with pride, my friend. Bruises add character and beauty.
she meant to do it..
:(
OK, well if she meant to do it, that's absolutely terrible. She should be ashamed of herself.
I'm still not sure where I stand on the whole parental violence thing. There are simply situations in which it's perfectly warrented for someone to hit somebody else. In my experience there have been a few times when I was being way out of line and being completely rude to a parent and I was hit for it and made to understand that just because I'm taller doesn't mean I'm in charge and that I still have to do what they say. I'm glad for it in the long run.
I'm sure she didn't exactly mean to hurt you and was acting out of anger, but I'm sure next time you'll think twice before entering that same situation again.
hah yea I'll think twice about being near doors
Physically punishing little kids is the answer, physically punishing kids our age is almost always wrong.
I don't believe it is ever acceptable to hit a child, or anyone for that matter.
peaches- Dear God I hope you were kidding.
physically punishing kids our age isnt wrong, its a mistake
we can hit back. :P
"Physically punishing little kids is the answer"
hah hah....hah?
^As a rule I only beat up on kids when they're defenseless and easy to scar emotionally. Provides 'em with plenty of fodder for the shrinks when they grow up and promotes a healthy relationship of fear The littler the better, that's my motto!
Guys, I'm not talking about coming home and beating the shit out of little kids, what I am saying is that young toddlers have morals based on what they recieve. It takes a while for children to get the whole "this is bad because morals dictate it." Their morals are based off of "if I eat the cookie what will happen?" If they get reprimanded they probably won't care so much. If they get spanked they'll think twice about taking the cookie again.
It's not an out of anger thing, it's a you-did-this-and-these-are-the-consequences thing. At our age we don't generally get spanked anymore, so physicaly punishment is generally the parent losing their temper and hitting their kid, which is not a good thing.
The only time it's ever really a good thing is if it's never used, and it happens one time, because then you know you've really crossed the line and need to reevaluate what you're doing.
But I'm glad you all think I like beating children, or love to joke about it.
I think that it is ok to hit a child very lightly after they have done something really bad but violence isn't usually an appropriate punishment. With little children time outs can seem like terrible punishments anyways.
I still think that even spankings or very light hits are wrong. It's all about power- you don't have to show your authority over children by hitting them. I can't believe you guys would even think about that.
I probably think this way because I was never, ever hit as a child and I turned out just fine. My discipline issues were solved through other means (Go to your room! No dinner young lady- Go straight to bed! Timeout, NOW!)But my parents never even thought about striking me.
I was one of those little kids who would hurt themselves if they were bad...like I would rip my hair out or threaten to kill myself...stuff like that.
They ripped out my hair for me when I was little.. they also smacked me and once I was bleeding from 5 different punctures in my face...
but I wasn't abused
when i first read this post i had an image of this middle-aged woman picking up a huge wooden door and hurling it at someone. it was quite funny in my head.
yea well it wasn't funny when it happened.. but heh yea that image is
OP, that IS abuse.
Abuse isn't necessarily constant.
But... puncture wounds? Hair torn out? Abuse could be a one-time breakdown from anger, but it's still abuse.
People shouldn't hit children.
Seriousley, they have guns now.
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