Ok, first of all, I feel like all the people who post on this site are sort of in the same group of friends? Is this correct? I dunno, but I'm just absolutely sure that I'm NOT and I was wondering if the whole anonymity thing is real, or just kind of pointless b/c everyone knows who everyone is anyway?
My tangst is whether or not to tell him. This has been going on for years now. Telling him could ruin things, even our friendship. But then again, not telling him could do the same? Or, maybe just ruin me. I'm really lost here. Andddddd he's not really the "communication leads to a better relationship" type person.
hm.
Anonymous
02:33:53 AM
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To answer the first part: I'm not really sure anymore if the people who post on the site are in the same group of friends. Most of us are connected to each other through friends or friends-of-friends, but we don't all hang out together. There are other people who post here, people who none of us know. The anonymity is real, unless we're told something in real life when someone admits to a post. This happens very rarely. By the way, how did you find the site, if not connected to me through various friends?
For the second part: I honestly can't give you any advice. I've gone through the same sort of thing, but that was for months as opposed to your years. Towards the end I felt really broken, and then one day I realized I was finally over him. It was freeing. In my case, doing absolutely nothing worked out well. There's still a nagging "what if" feeling, but it's starting to be silenced by the fact that I'm happy now.
-- sithgirl aka Heather
The anonymity is real. I only know of two of my friends who are Tangsters. I'm only sure of the identity of one post's poster, and that only because I saw the same thing written in a different media. I know Heather vaguely, although she wouldn't really know me, and as far as I know, most people have found this site through a Facebook group.
Cheers for anonymity, Anonymous Poster!
I know exactly how you fell, original poster. I am in the same situation, except that I'm a guy in your position and she's a girl in "his" position.
And, despite all the terrific advice I've gotten from here (and elsewhere), I still have no idea what to do about it.
Best of luck to you, friend.
PS: Yes, the anonymity is quite real. Some people know who others are because we are well-connected within (mainly) Enloe, and can connect events with people. But, for instance, I would venture to guess that only one or two people on Tangst know who I really am.
And I can only connect about half the posts with names.
I'm fairly sure I know who knight racer is.
Hmmm, people who can't talk about their relationships probably aren't the most successful people to be with.
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