I'm sick of all the reminders that we're "just friends." I know they're unintentional, but that doesn't stop it from hurting.
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12:37:20 AM
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I'm sick of all the reminders that we're "just friends." I know they're unintentional, but that doesn't stop it from hurting.
Anonymous
12:37:20 AM
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But you have to come to realize that being friends is better than not being friends.
Unintentional? I know I always give subtle hints to female friends who seem interested in me when I'm not interested back. Guys aren't always clueless when it comes to realtionships, and you have to admit it's better than them leading you on.
Its been mentioned before on here, but I'll argue it again.
Friendships are a hundred times stronger and more valuable at this point in life. What we call "relationships" are mere infatuations of hormonal teenage hearts.
The real relationships are strong, true friendships wrought on the anvil of life.
While a fulfilling friendship may not get you sex, it is far more emotionally fulfilling and relaxing than one based on sexual desires and tensions.
But it's crucuial to be in a few "realtionships" that you know won't count before you get into college and things start to get serious. The more practice you get from dating or have a girlfriend or boyfriend (learning honesty, patience, and commitment) the better you will be once you find the person you actually want to spend your life with.
Or perhaps not?
If you erg before you row you can build bad habits that will cause you to suck at real rowing.
I just had to throw in that crew analogy, but what I mean is is that most people throw themselves into relationships for the specific purpose of having one, and this is perhaps a bad track to be set on, because you may continue doing it. Whereas, if you start going into relationships that mean something then isn't that setting you on the path to getting used to this whole idea of marriage and living forever with someone else?
That's all just speculation, but what I'm saying is you can't really say it's CRUCIAL for people to have those high school relationships.
What about high school relationships that are real? Can they exist? What sorts of people can make them real?
it's all a matter of luck in finding that person you're really compatible with so early, but sometimes people are too immature to realize that they've found that someone.
They can and do exist, but the majority of relationships are not that kind. I just don't think most of us are mature enough to understand life yet. Many of us still depend on our parents.
I agree with the last post. I've seen a couple that have been real relationships and not dumb "relationships". But the majority are just dumb. I stay away from them. Kinda starting to want one though now.
Look at your relationship. Can you take away all physical contact (yes, including kisses and hugs and hand-holding)? Can you go weeks without seeing the other party? Will the relationship survive on these terms?
If you answered "yes," then you, too, may be the victim of an Abnormally Mature High School Relationship. Find a slut or a jerk quick, and fix your situation!
No, but seriously-- a truly mature relationship is based on love of a caring and giving nature. A healthy relationship isn't based solely in romantic love.
A mature relationship isn't based on constant togetherness, or perfect knowledge of the other, or physicality in any way.
And yes, it's possible to have in high school.
Trust me on this one.
^ I trust you on that one. (and my relationship passes that test, which makes me very happy.)
^
Mine too. It's a long distance relationship.
i've never been in a relationship and i want to know what its like...whether its serious or not.
... That makes me think of a Beatles song.
Anyways, yes, my relationship is long-distance, too. A very short long-distance, but longer than I'd wish.
As for Anonymous Twelve, trust me, it's worth waiting for. Don't mess your life up by settling. Wait for Mr. (or Ms.) Right.
On an unrelated note, who else hates counting up the number of anonymouses to find yours?
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