Post anything that you want - a story, a secret, a confession, a fear, a love - anything. Post twice if you'd like. And then share the site with your friends.
Friday, March 24, 2006
what characteristics do boys actually find attractive?
well there's certainly another aspect that guys look for, i mean, i have a lot of awesome friends that are girls, but i just don't think of them in that way, you know? there has to be something else there
A woman with healthy-looking skin and a good hips-to-waist ratio sends subconsious messages to a guy's hormone-soaked brain saying "this woman is most likely a good fertile place to plant your seed!" So, skin and hips. Good things.
It's all relative it really is. Different hair colors, personality types, and body structures can all be turn on's depending on how they mix together. I guess the biggest thing would be don't be fat (and I'm not talking oh no a few extra pounds, it's gotta be fat fat).
i personally don't like big butts, i don't see why some guys go crazy over them, i mean, to me curves are nice, but big butt's really junk in the trunk (no in ta good way_
There are three types of guys in this world: 1) Ass guys 2) Boob guys 3) Gay guys
As those who fall into option 3 are probably not what you're into, we shall skip that step, and consider it to be moot. That said, the above classification is extremely cliche (although somewhat accurate), though other factors do apply.
Personally, I like a girl who is confident, but not so much so that she is inaccessable to others.
I like a girl that is curvy - not skinny as a rail.
She must be intelligent.
She must be able to engage in a meaningful relationship. ie, she must be trustworthy and open minded.
I prefer long, dark, curly hair (but maybe that's just the Jew in me?), though it really doesn't matter.
With respect to the above choice, she should preferably be Jewish, though in the end I realize that living in Raleigh makes this very difficult. Then again, as more than 50% of Jewish marriages are now intermarriages, I do feel some obligation to, forgive the expression, "Preserve the breed"
She must have a sense of humor.
That's all I can think of right now. This might make me sound picky, but really, it all has very little bearing. I have had so few girlfriends, I could count them on one finger, and that wasn't even really much of anything. Damn, I'm pathetic.
From a horny high school guy perspective, the real question is: What is a guy -not- attracted to? But here are few things for me that make girls much easier to imagine as girlfriends.
1. Wit. 2. Confidence: No one can stress this enough. Not being confident in your body, beliefs, or personality make you extremely hard to approach. If you aren't comforatble there's obviously some problem that I missed out on, thanks for the warning. 3. Honesty: If you're willing to share with a guy and build an actual emotional relationship you suddenly become more attractive (even physically) almost by magic. Really, it's true! [This in no way means that you can dump all your emotional baggage on me whenever I'm around. Sharing and awkward weeping sessions need not be paired together, I promise.] 4. Hanging out with my guy friends: The second the guys meet and start swooning over you as well, I suddenly feel the urgent need to beat them to the chase (with a 2-by-4 if necessary). Competition is a powerful, powerful thing. 5. Being healthy: Sorry, but every evolutionary curcuit in my body will tell me to not date you if your seem unhealthy or on either extreme of the weight spectrum. 6. Intelligence without arrogance: Okay this one's a bit hard, but there's nothing sexier than a really brilliant girl who isn't ashamed of it. (Important!: If you pretend to be stupider than you actually are for any reason I will never respect you.) 7. A positive outlook: It's fun to complain about an unfair teacher or the idiotic administration now and then , but if it seems like you're always griping and being negative whenever I'm around I'm probably not going to go out of my way to be with you. 8. Don't fish for compliments and give me some sometimes. Validation is just as much of a turn-on for guys (even more so becasue it's so rare). 9. Be "fiesty": Maybe it's different for other guys, but for me a girl who can speak her mind and really caox you into a good argument now and then is infitely more intriguing.
There are certainly more, and every guy is certainly unique, but these are the major things I would look for in a girlfriend. Take them or leave them as you please.
Actually, you were right earlier. Not all of us are confident enough to go up to someone we know, no matter how long we've known them and ask them out. Just let them know through friends (and DON'T be cryptic).
15 comments:
hot chicks
good friendship and an easy-going nature.
physically im more attracted to girls who are confident in their being. too much makeup is a turnoff though some is always good.
on the other hand we always find hot chicks to be lustfully attractive if that's all your looking for..
good friendship?
in that case...i should have about 8 guys just pounding down the door right now.
but somehow, i can't ever even get a date.
how do you figure that?
is it that they don't know that i am (potentially) interested?
well there's certainly another aspect that guys look for, i mean, i have a lot of awesome friends that are girls, but i just don't think of them in that way, you know? there has to be something else there
i also like tan skin, and long strait hair
A woman with healthy-looking skin and a good hips-to-waist ratio sends subconsious messages to a guy's hormone-soaked brain saying "this woman is most likely a good fertile place to plant your seed!" So, skin and hips. Good things.
The few girls I find attractive normally have dark curly hair, ample hips, darkish/olive skin, and big eyes.
they're usually very full bodied. Nothing is more sexually repulsive than a thin girl.
Then again, gay guy talking. Thin girls or other girls, don't worry.
It's all relative it really is. Different hair colors, personality types, and body structures can all be turn on's depending on how they mix together. I guess the biggest thing would be don't be fat (and I'm not talking oh no a few extra pounds, it's gotta be fat fat).
i personally don't like big butts, i don't see why some guys go crazy over them, i mean, to me curves are nice, but big butt's really junk in the trunk (no in ta good way_
There are three types of guys in this world:
1) Ass guys
2) Boob guys
3) Gay guys
As those who fall into option 3 are probably not what you're into, we shall skip that step, and consider it to be moot. That said, the above classification is extremely cliche (although somewhat accurate), though other factors do apply.
Personally, I like a girl who is confident, but not so much so that she is inaccessable to others.
I like a girl that is curvy - not skinny as a rail.
She must be intelligent.
She must be able to engage in a meaningful relationship. ie, she must be trustworthy and open minded.
I prefer long, dark, curly hair (but maybe that's just the Jew in me?), though it really doesn't matter.
With respect to the above choice, she should preferably be Jewish, though in the end I realize that living in Raleigh makes this very difficult. Then again, as more than 50% of Jewish marriages are now intermarriages, I do feel some obligation to, forgive the expression, "Preserve the breed"
She must have a sense of humor.
That's all I can think of right now. This might make me sound picky, but really, it all has very little bearing. I have had so few girlfriends, I could count them on one finger, and that wasn't even really much of anything. Damn, I'm pathetic.
From a horny high school guy perspective, the real question is: What is a guy -not- attracted to? But here are few things for me that make girls much easier to imagine as girlfriends.
1. Wit.
2. Confidence: No one can stress this enough. Not being confident in your body, beliefs, or personality make you extremely hard to approach. If you aren't comforatble there's obviously some problem that I missed out on, thanks for the warning.
3. Honesty: If you're willing to share with a guy and build an actual emotional relationship you suddenly become more attractive (even physically) almost by magic. Really, it's true! [This in no way means that you can dump all your emotional baggage on me whenever I'm around. Sharing and awkward weeping sessions need not be paired together, I promise.]
4. Hanging out with my guy friends: The second the guys meet and start swooning over you as well, I suddenly feel the urgent need to beat them to the chase (with a 2-by-4 if necessary). Competition is a powerful, powerful thing.
5. Being healthy: Sorry, but every evolutionary curcuit in my body will tell me to not date you if your seem unhealthy or on either extreme of the weight spectrum.
6. Intelligence without arrogance: Okay this one's a bit hard, but there's nothing sexier than a really brilliant girl who isn't ashamed of it. (Important!: If you pretend to be stupider than you actually are for any reason I will never respect you.)
7. A positive outlook: It's fun to complain about an unfair teacher or the idiotic administration now and then , but if it seems like you're always griping and being negative whenever I'm around I'm probably not going to go out of my way to be with you.
8. Don't fish for compliments and give me some sometimes. Validation is just as much of a turn-on for guys (even more so becasue it's so rare).
9. Be "fiesty": Maybe it's different for other guys, but for me a girl who can speak her mind and really caox you into a good argument now and then is infitely more intriguing.
There are certainly more, and every guy is certainly unique, but these are the major things I would look for in a girlfriend. Take them or leave them as you please.
but see, far as i can tell i have atleast a /few/ of those traits listed above in me, and i haven't really had many guys chasing me in a while.
you may just not know it.
Actually, you were right earlier. Not all of us are confident enough to go up to someone we know, no matter how long we've known them and ask them out. Just let them know through friends (and DON'T be cryptic).
^^you could not be more correct, my friend.
The problem with not having low self esteem and not being arrogant is that no one notices when you're not talking about how fat you are.
Post a Comment