Okay, so I have a problem. Maybe it isn't so bad, but it bothers me. I have this friend, see, whom i like a lot, but her personality is frustrating sometimes and she can be embarrassing to be around...even when there aren't any other people around either. I eat lunch with her often, but I want this to stop so I can get on with my life and hang out with people that I feel like I connect with more. Problem? I'm so bad at these things without being hurtful, and I'm afraid she'll be lonely.
Anonymous
11:30:54 PM
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do you like her? be honest with yourself..
if you do then you shouldn't care how she is around other people. if you cant get past that there's really no point of talking to her b/c you'll never be comfortable around her.
if you dont like her then...she has other friends right? so she wont be lonely. and you might be giving her the wrong impressions. and hanging out with people you like more would be so much more fun anyway.
and if you like her but want to get over her...dont see her. eat lunch with your other friends. you'll be more comfortable and so will she probably.
How long have you been "friends" with her?
How is she embarrassing? Does she drool or something? Or is she a loud-talker, or a bad dresser? Details man! We need more details!!!
What school do you go to? I think I know who you are.
hmm that sucks. I have a similar problem.I hang out with quite a few diffrent crowds and while I fit in fine with them all Many of my friends dont. some times you just have to ask yourself who you want to be with more.
i go to enloe. and no we're not talking drool, just embarrassing personality and interests (that i guess i'm not too keen on). my situation's kind fo like the poster's above me. i would just feel like a bad friend for ditching her since i don't know how many friends she has other than me.
I know this is hard, but it sounds more like an insecurity self-image you have going on rather than how she's acting. If she is having a good time, as long as it isn't hurtful to others, why is it your place to judge? Also, it's rather arrogant of you to assume she doesn't have many friends besides you, which is insinuated by your 'oh, oh.. but, I don't want to DITCH her.'
If you want to be her friend for who she is, than that's awesome. If you are embarassed by her, don't do her any "favors" by hanging out with her for pity.
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