i am a 15 year old girl, i don't go to enloe. if guys could post a short reply to this it would be great.
i was just wondering....
is it more appealing if a girl:
1. a)is shy&polite or b)is loud and talkative?
2. a)has brown hair or b)has blonde hair?
3. a)wears noticeable makeup or b)looks clean&natural?
4. a)dresses slutty or b)dresses cute?
5. a)plays easy-to-get or b)plays hard-to-get?
6. a)tells funny jokes or b)says suggestive things?
7. a)is a good friend of yours or b)is "on a pedestal"?
8. a)talks to you about deep, thoughtful things or b)talks to you about silly, amusing things?
if you could just post with answering either a or b to each one, that would be great =) thanks
Anonymous
03:30:22 PM
27 comments:
Well, I'd just like to say all things are good in moderation. Not to say that there aren't guys out there that like the extremes, but I'd say that no one likes a pushover that lays themselves at your feet, but hard-to-get can get rather annoying as well. That applies to most of those up there.
As to #6...are those exactly opposites?
7)friends
2)Different hair colors work on different people, personally I'd say the only bad thing for me is the carrot-orange kind of redhead.
All the others there are pros and cons to everything, I really have to take a person as a whole.
I know that's really specific, sorry I don't have the answers you're looking for.
Oh yeah, just to be a jerk, apparently the color "blonde" refers only to men, whereas "blond" is genderless. I couldn't find that anywhere, but that's what jeopardy said...
I'm female; I call myself blonde.
I view this along the same lines as how I always write "grey" instead of "gray."
So you're being incorrect...the point being?
Well if Jeopardy said that then they seem to have been mistaken.
Blonde is the usual adjective and noun applied to females, blond to males, although the noun blond is occasionally applied to women too. For wood finishes and other nonhuman things, use either blond or blonde as either part of speech.
(http://www.bartleby.com/68/89/889.html)
It came from French apparently:
The words blond and blonde come from the French and follow somewhat the French pattern. Blond (without the e) is used to describe males, mixed gender, or uncertain gender. Blonde refers to women or female gender.
In modern use, blond is sometimes used for female as well as male, but blonde is preferred for female.
(http://englishplus.com/grammar/00000275.htm)
-PChis
this is just like us, guys.
dont answer the question in the post. just go off on tangents. always.
i heart us.
babaabab
^Wow...for the longest time I thought you were just making sheep noises for the heck of it....
1. both in moderation
2. that's superficial
3. (b)
4. fit your personality
5. both are annoying in excess
6. (a)
7. (a)
8. both in moderation
You can't pretend you're not superficial. You might not have a preference between brown and blonde hair but...
try me.
b
doenst matter
b
dresses with their own style
b
humor must be clever, witty
most of the time it goes from AtoB
a
You're just asking so the fact that you're better than the girl you're competing with (for some guy of course) is reaffirmed.
Will answer for a guy, just because that amuses me more:
1. a
2. a, or at least dark hair.
3. Not applicable, really. b by default.
4. Dresses casual and masculine. Jeans, flannel, etc.
5. huh?
6. haha, b. Let me be the funny one.
7. a
8. a
So, depending on what people answer... are you going to mold yourself to this appeal? Jesus... work on your priorities (I'm a guy, by the way) and I think everybody would appreciate it if you didn't compromise yourself, and just acted as yourself. People who like you for you rock, and those that don't... don't rock. The end. Go have a milkshake, it'll make you feel better. Always works for me.
^ I agree completely. Be yourself.
I'm sure the person who liked her molded self better would appreciate it.
Now it's still not a good thing, but it does have pros and cons.
let's see:
1. a
2. a
3. b
4. b
5. a
6. a
7. a
8. a
Just my opinion. I guess my upbringing just demands my concept of what I want in a girl. Someone who's pretty, intelligent, well-mannered and good humored. May I ask what you were asking for?
hey everyone, thanks for the responses
in response to the people who were telling me to "just be myself" and not mold myself to what people want me to be, thanks for your concern, but that wasn't really what i was posting this for =).
i am myself when around guys, but BOTH REPLIES on each question (well, most of them anyway) are actually parts of my personality. like sometimes i'm quiet, sometimes i'm more outgoing. sometimes i spend a long time on my hair/makeup, sometimes i go with the "i just got out of bed, i'm too busy to make myself look good, deal with it" look. some guys i've been interested in are my good friends, some of them i view more as a perfect,unattainable goal. etcetera, etcetera, you get the point. i was just wondering which aspects of my personality i should emphasize when there's a guy i'm interested in. does that make sense?
^I understand perfectly. People always say "be yourself", but the truth is -we're in high school-, we have no idea who we are yet. It's all still up in the air.
Sure I've got some of my goals and ideals set out, but if I happened to move to...Lithuania or something I'm completely confident that I could revamp my personlaity to fit in.
I just wish someone would tell me who to be already.
yup yup =)
and if you're a guy, could you post a response?
if you're not don't be offended that i thought you were =)
It doesn't matter who you make yourself to be on the outside. It's how the relationship goes, what I think of you as a person. If respect is mutual, the bond is strong.
Read yourself for clues as much as you'd read another person for advances and interest.
When you can begin to recognize who you really are, even just a little bit, you take hold of an inner strength and fortitude that are attractive beyond words.
Oh, I'm a guy.
I think I'm gonna jump i here and sayyyy
look guys who say you can revamp your personality: I think as we are over halfway through our teen years we've already set a great deal in motion about who we are that we can't change. The idea that you can "revamp" your personality sounds a little ridiculous to me.
That said
look here inner-strength-and-fortitude poster: You can't always just be "yourself," because yourself (I'd be tempted to say for everyone, but it's probably just a large majority) changes depending on what company you're with. You have to change something ever so slightly as to make the group you're with run like a well oiled machine.
Original poster, good idea...although I think as the few posters who've put their ideals up there's a big difference depending on which person. I'd say just play it by ear.
"It's not who I am on the inside, it's what I do that defines me."
Batman Begins is such a great movie. And it makes a damn good point.
Well, that was the original arugment for non-behavioral pyschology not being a science. Just because people define you by what you do doesn't mean you don't define yourself by compoletely different qualities.
non-behavioral--hmmm--sounds like emotional something or another--we see ourselves--others see us--none of us see clearly
to the original question-i believe being true to yourself and to others is an attractive feature-all of those questions posted have a right or wrong if they are on the wrong person or if the person was wrong to put them on or something
I believe when he said non-behavioral he was referring to the 3 realms of psychology >>behavioral, cognitive, and psychoanalytic. The first is studying through behavior, so there is actually evidence that is seen. The last two involve a lot of "guessing" through talking to people and looking at events in their lives. That is why behavioral was considered a real science whereas the latter two were thought to be ridiculous.
...I think this was mid 1900s.
...er...correct me if I'm wrong.
aabbaaaa
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