Maybe it was the other recent post that made me think of this, but I am really, really afraid of sex. The more I read and see and hear, the more it seems like I will inevitably end up A)rushing into sex too fast and against my will to please someone else or B) living a cold frigid life and becoming a cloistered nun. I used to think that option B really wouldn't be too bad... but I really like him now... I don't want to lose him just because I can't give him what he wants.
Those stupid sex ed videos-- they make saying no look so easy.
Anonymous
10:22:55 PM
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I didn't say no. And I can't really say that I regret it, but it was hard to live with afterwords. Do what YOU want.
if you think youre going to regret it but its the only way to keep him then its not worth it. i had to go thru a very similar situation and i didnt do what he wanted, and now i feel so much better about myself. you feel like you have pride. if you are only doing it to plesae him you will loose all of your pride and dignity.
but thats just what i think.
Only do it when you're ready. I rushed, and although I didn't regret it per say, for the longest time I thought I hated sex. Turns out I just hadn't found the right person. Now that I have, it's absolutely mindblowing how great it is. Just use your best judgement. Why do you want to do it? Is it something YOU want? Would he care about you either way? Pay attention to the last one...because if it's obvious he wouldn't, dump him like a bag of bricks.
Don't let him push you into having sex...ever. Well I mean, if you've been dating for a while you should at least have a talk with him about it, but if you don't want to then don't, don't let guys push you around like that, I hate it when we have to fall into those stereotypes.
Then again, speaking up for my gender, if you haven't been giving any ground after quite a while, there are some things I guess he's entitled to expect. I'm not saying that includes ultimately losing your virginity, but are you two engaging in physical fun together?
Don't do it because someone else wants you to. Six months later you'll be crying in your bedroom in the middle of the night because neither they nor the act itself means anything to you anymore. All it means is pain.
A truly good relationship can survive, even thrive, on no physical "fun." It took me eight months of being a slave to a demanding boyfriend before I realized that.
Saying yes or no to sex is just as easy as the videos show it, as long as you aren't already caught up in it.
The fact is is that saying yes or no is just as easy or hard as you make it. The point of the videos is to show it as really easy, so you will have no problem doing it yourself.
THANK YOU!
My GOD I thought I was the only one.
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