I feel it necessary to post because of the past slowness.
I think I'm leading someone on. We talk a lot, and we get along really well, but it's only a friendship. I hope this person doesn't think it's something more.
If he/she does...how do I make my intentions clear?
Anonymous
05:30:35 PM
5 comments:
Friendship is what you make of it.
Do you think you're leading them on?
Odds are good that they feel about the same as you.
Well, you have a bunch of options. You could continue what you're doing and forget about it and hope theirs common knowledge of where you stand, which may end up good or bad depending on how things unfold.
You could stop talking to them, or not spend as much time...probably not so great an idea.
You could do that "logical" thing which is having a conversation, the only problem being that if they do like you will perhaps alienate them and if they don't like you it could still be awkward.
Anyways, I'd forget about it unless things start becoming awkward.
If YOU start thinking too much about how you're leading them on then I'd suggest having a "talk."
^ I like the 2nd poster's thoughts.
In addition, I'd weigh heavily on a "hands off" strategy. Its more beneficial in the long run, and it keeps things stable.
If you do notice problems though, have a little "talk".
I'm having the exact same issue. I say something, and it immediately gets construed as a sign of "likeage" or an allusion to our going out. It's not like that. I have a boyfriend, but this kid doesn't know that. I wish I could find a way to openly tell him that he's just damaging our friendship like this.
Last poster: Tell the guy you've got a boyfriend. If he's interested in being friends, it won't hurt anything.
Maybe try leading it into discussion, ie. about your weekend; talk about what you did with your bf or something casually.
If he's brighter than a rock, he'll get it, and if you handle it properly (ie. not tellign him off) your friendship will be fine.
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